Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Are we there yet?

I'm feeling a bit stressed today.  There is so much that goes into the surrogacy process and it's just a little overwhelming right now.  All the paperwork, appointments, emails, phone calls, legal documents, etc.  Today it's just getting to me.  Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful for the intricate system that they have set up because I know it keeps everyone safe and protected, but I'm just ready to be done with all the legal mumba-jumba and get on with becoming pregnant!

The list of "things-to-do" seems endless.

  • I'm waiting for the results to get back from my blood work last week but the last couple tests seem to be taking their sweet time.  Plus I found out that the OB ordered one of the wrong tests so I'll have to go back and get more blood work done then wait again for those results.
  • I have to make sure that the results are being sent over to ORM so they can chart/analyze the results so we can move forward. 
  • I've sent ORM the same document two times and they just asked for it again so hopefully third time's a charm.
  • I have the  life insurance people coming to my house on Thursday to do their physical work on me and then I'm sure it will be more paperwork to finalize that.
  • I have recently found out some pretty unfortunate news about my medical insurance that could throw a loop in things.  I can't really say much right now but I'll explain after we figure out what we will do about it.  It will definitely have an effect on the surrogacy but I'm hopeful that everything will work out just fine. 
  • My husband has to go in and get his blood work done, which he is absolutely dreading, and then we'll have to wait for those results.
I guess the list isn't THAT bad... there is so much waiting involved!  This is all stuff that has to be done (besides the life and medical insurance) before we can even talk about making my med calendar.  Ugh.. I just really want to move forward so I can give M and S a beautiful family! 

Speaking of M and S, we were able to Skype with them on Sunday and had the pleasure of meeting M's family!  (Hi guys!) They were all together celebrating a birthday so I was able to talk to his mother, father, sister, and wave at his grandmother and grandfather.  They are so sweet!  I can't wait to meet them in person and continue developing a relationship through this process. 

S's father emailed me a few days ago and one thing I wanted to express to him was how overwhelmingly happy I am to see the support that both families are giving M and S.  I can feel the love pouring through the emails and through the screen as we Skype.  M and S are so loved and I know these babies will be, too.  One of the things that myself and Mark wanted in an intended couple was for them to have a great support system for when the babies came.  I wanted to know that these kids will be loved and supported, not just by their fathers, but by their grandmas and grandpas and aunts and uncles and great-grandmas and great-grandpas.  Even though we have barely begun this journey, I have no doubt in my mind that these babies (I just noticed I keep saying "babies"- probably because that's what we're all hoping for! I'll just go with it) will be overflowing with love.  They will have so much love they won't know what to do with it.  I can't wait :)

It's interesting for me to think that I'm not only helping two men become fathers but I'm also helping to create grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts, and many more.  It's quite exciting and I can't help but feel all fuzzy inside just thinking about it. :) 

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